If this blog has been in incubation for several years, I’ve been in labour with it for several months now.

It’s been fully-grown and ready to meet the world for quite some time, but truth is I’ve been too scared to publish.

Putting yourself out there is scary, even for something you believe about so deeply. And I do, care deeply about the core subject of this blog, body positivity.

I hit puberty when I was 9. By age 12 I had bigger boobs than my mom had ever had. Finding off-the-rail clothes has always been difficult, and more difficult still was hearing my body shape described as ‘difficult’.

As a result, I imposed on myself a lifetime of dark colours and small variations in style, always too scared to wear anything different in case I drew too much attention to myself. No heels because they make me feel like a hippo balancing on toothpicks. Nothing trendy, because then I’d look like I was making an effort, and that would just be embarrassing. I’ve dieted and worked out, and been heavier and lighter, but how I’ve felt about myself has never really changed.

And it never will, unless I change the way I think.

I look around, and see women in all different shapes and sizes, and think how beautiful they are. Why can’t I be so kind to myself?

So, here I begin. This is what I got, and I’m going to learn how to rock it. No more hiding in the same A-line black dress. I want to learn to feel good in my body, no matter what size it is.

And hopefully, as I do, I’ll find some people on the same journey.
Please share your thoughts and stories with me if you’re in the same boat.

Sincerely yours,
The Girl in The Pearls

21 Comments on A blog is born

  1. I know we haven’t spoken in years- but just had to reach out after I saw the link to this blog on K’s FB. It takes courage to put yourself out there. Great posts so far, nice skirt and you look great. Moar fashion for all bodies!

  2. Girl in The Pearls,

    I’m the athlete who, no matter how hard I competed, or how many times I changed my diet, my body remained roughly the same size.
    It’s taken almost all of my teens and adult life to come to terms with that, but now that I have – a weight has been lifted. I no longer punish myself for cheating on my meal plan or figure that the whole day is a wash if I have one treat.
    Life is meant to be lived, and whether I’m 130lbs or 190lbs, I’m gonna live it – and ROCK it!!
    Thanks for starting a blog that’s about self love. It’s important for all women to realize that it’s not what they look like that’s important.

    • Thank you so much for your heart-felt comment.
      It seems like the larger girls have ‘claimed’ the body positivity fight, but something that I’ve learned very quickly is that it’s not something that just affects one small section of women. I was whining about never being able to find boots that fit over my broad calves, and my beautiful willowy best friend responded that she has the same problem – because her calves are too thin. The fact is that we’re not made from a cookie cutter, each and every single body is different, and there’s something about that that breeds a huge insecurity in everyone. Women, men, larger people, skinnier people. I happen to be a curvy girl, but I hope that my blog will help anybody who doesn’t love their body to feel just a little bit better about it, a little bit more accepted.

  3. Where do I even begin! This world and this country needs more blogs like this. Since the invention of glossy mags, series like Gossip Girls and the internet, woman have been body-shaming themselves because they don’t look like the models they see. Enough is enough! Time to make what we have work for us and ignore everything else we see. Time to LOVE what we have because it means we are alive and living life.

    I can’t wait to see more from this blog!! xxx

  4. Yay! Congrats! This is such a great blog, with the greatest of sentiments. We are worthy, we are made to be loved, and we should feel great about ourselves (size independent). This is definitely a blog for me 🙂

    Good luck! Xxx

  5. Jup in the same boat. Always been taller and bigger and awkward. Dealing with liking myself this past 2 months when I found The Militant Baker’s blog. Still shy but I’m getting there

  6. So proud of you for birthing this beauty. I love your honesty and approach to our lady bods.

    “…how I’ve felt about myself has never really changed. And it never will, unless I change the way I think.”

    Gold. You’re gold, GitP.

  7. Love it love it love it! you speak to my heart! love this, ive always been refered to as the heavier friend at school, so i know all about this, starved myself when i was a teenager, looking back to those pics i cannot beleive i was that thin, but back then i didnt think so, always felt thick! now im weighing in at 100 and dream of the time i was 80kgs, but my husband loves his curvy woman and i need to learn to love myself jsut as muc even more… like i jokingly refer to my weight with friends ‘ Round is also a shape” 🙂 you are such an inspiration and i love your fun happy vibe 🙂

    • Thanks so much for your feedback Cindy! I can totally relate to what you’re saying – I was ‘that’ girl too!
      But as I always tell people – I’m built for comfort, not for speed! 😉

  8. HI there

    I just came across your blog on news24 – its so fun and light,! Just what women need when we’re trying to enrich ourselves – those feelings we have surrounding the ‘perfect imperfections’ of our body. When reading your first blog post I immediately felt that we had lived similar journey’s. Thanks for creating this!

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