Category: Opinion

The blogging blues

My August hiatus is over, and I’m back with a bang.

Well, not really. This thing is happening where the longer I don’t write, the more pressure I feel to do something incredible for my ‘comeback’, and then I just put it off again. First there’s nothing that’s good enough to write about, then I have too many ideas and I can’t choose. I wake up early to blog to start my day – craffle the morning away and then decide it’s too late to post anything. (Nobody reads things after 2, Meg. Everyone knows that, stupid. You’ll have to do it tomorrow.)

So, I’m calling collywobbles on myself, and just sitting here, in the sun, on my couch with a sleeping kitty next to me, and easing myself into it.

I see awesome things and think thoughts that I want to blog about all the time (in my head I’m probably the most prolific blogger there ever was), but when it comes to actually writing them up and pressing ‘publish’, I get cold feet. I think it’s something to do with coming from a publishing background – everything must be flawlessly perfect. I want my photos to be magazine quality, my writing to be the funniest, wittiest, most insightful read around, and I feel like if it’s not going to measure up to all of those things then I’m not even going to try. You’re not a failure if you never tried in the first place, right?

When people compliment me on my blog, or tell me how much they like a particular piece, I actually feel this weird guilty sort-of feeling, if you can believe it, because I don’t feel like I’m putting the best content I can out there. I fret about coming across as vacuous, or vain, when really I’m trying to grapple my way around a subject I feel really deeply about. I worry that I don’t have original enough opinions to warrant expressing them – they’re just a regurgitation of something I’ve heard somewhere else.

I guess what it comes down to is I’m putting too much pressure on myself to have the perfect blog, as as a result actually not blogging at all.

So, I’m gonna call bullshit on myself. Fuck off, blogging insecurities. This blog is meant to be something that builds me up, not breaks me down.

In light of this acknowledgement, here’s my disclaimer and a vow:

My news might not always be the newest news out there.
My pictures might not look like a Vogue spread.
My opinions might be a little stale and trite.
I might be the only one who finds me funny.

But I will, blog, damnit.

I will blog when I have a thought to share, or something to inspire. I will blog when I have a gripe or a groan. (Ok, maybe not so many of that one). I will blog when I find something to lol at. My blog might look like a mish-mash of looks and feels, but I’ll put it all out there, and maybe, one word of it all will strike a chord with someone. And then I will be glad that I did.

This isn’t the post I set out to write.
But hopefully it’s the first post of many to come.
Here blooms with spring a new blog.


P.S. A very special thanks to Urban Mnguni who took the time to tell me she was missing my posts. You gave me just the kick in the butt I needed to get up and going. Thank you. <3

Top plus size red carpet fashion from the MTV Movie Awards 2015

The annual entertainment spectacle that is the MTV Music Awards took place on Sunday in LA. It was wonderful to see some beautiful curvy ladies lighting up the red carpet and stage – wish some even going so far as to make a comment about body positivity!

Funnygal Amy Schumer, who recently responded to criticism of her weight in the media by posting sexy topless pictures of herself, hosted the event. By my books, Amy isn’t anywhere near plus size, but I do find it really heartening that someone with a relatable body type is in such a high-exposure position (pun intended 😛 ). Her little monochrome number isn’t something I could see myself in, but I think she looks super sharp in it.

Plus size celeb Amy Schumer on the red carpet at the MTV movie awards

Another blonde comic also made waves on the night. Rebel Wilson looked pretty classy on the red carpet in a LBD and cape with a bold splash of pink. Not gonna lie, I think she rocked this look.

Plus size star Rebel Wilson on the red carpet at MTV Movie Awards 2015

But it was when Rebel took to the stage to promote Pitch Perfect 2 that she really made an impact. Wearing a spangled bra, leather pants with ‘Think’ emblazoned across the butt, and giant feather wings, Wilson explained that her outfit was about embracing her shape. “I like to encourage girls to think, which is why I put that on my butt. It’s really about what’s up here [points to head], and not whats here [points to backside],” she said in the press room, according to Style News.

Plus size star Rebel Wilson on stage at the MTV Movie Awards 2015

What do you think of this getup? Think she pulled her message off?

Kelly Osbourne, who has trimmed down a lot in recent years, was also present on the night. While I think her Alexander McQueen coat-dress is gorgeous, I really think she could have gone with something a little more exciting for such a high profile event. Not a huge fan of the pineapple hairdo either. (Awwww! I don’t like saying mean things about people! :S).

Plus size star Kelly Osbourne on MTV Movie Awards red carpet

I kind of love the quirky Judith Leiber rubber duck clutch she accessorized with though. 😀 I’m totally down with adding a touch of bizarre to otherwise ‘pretty’ outfits.


After her arrival, she went on to host in this monochrome summer dress. I’m much more in love with this look 🙂

Plus size star Kelly Osbourne hosting at the MTV Movie Awards 2015

Looks like black and pink was a hot combo for the plus size scene on the red carpet. Actress and comedienne Nicole Byer hosted the Red Carpet Report, a show airing all the lead up hype to the awards themselves. She was dressed in a LBD with neckline sparkle, and pink cardigan. Again, pretty un-glam for the red carpet. Hmmmmm….

Plus size comedienne Nicole Byer hosted the Red Carpet Review at the MTV Movie Awards 2015.

By my count, it would appear that little monochrome numbers and black and pink colour blocking are the hot plus size red carpet fashion looks of the moment. Which were your favourite looks of the night?

Curvy inspiration from the red carpet

When in doubt, wear black.

While this might be the safe, comfortable option, let’s face it, it can also be pretty boring.

And there are some moments when you don’t want to fade into the background. You deserve to shine, not to hide.

After looking at all the stunning red carpet creations at the recent Screen Actors Guild Awards 2015, I decided to look back at how some of my favourite plus-size stars have rocked the red carpet without having to resort to black.

Let me know – which do you love, and which do you loathe?


Danielle Brooks from series Orange is the New Black looking radiant at the 2015 Screen Actors Guild awards.

Singer Kelly Price sparkles in more ways than one at the Grammys in 2013.


Queen Latifah looks amazing in this ombre number at the 2011 People’s Choice Awards (similar to the one I wore here. No?)

Melissa McCarthy Plus size fashion

Melissa McCarthy ain’t no wallflower at Variety’s Creative Impact Awards And 10 Directors to Watch Brunch.


Gabourey Sidibe of Precious and American Horror Story looks divine at the 2010 Golden Globe Awards.


Funny gal Rebel Wilson looking curvy and chic at a 2014 Park Hyatt event.


Grey’s Anatomy’s Sara Ramirez looking classic at Fall Fashion Week 2008.


If there’s one lady who really knows how to dress herself, it’s Oprah Winfrey. Here she is at the 2014 Screen Actors Guild Awards looking superb.

Can you think of any examples that I left out? Please send them to me!

Funky viral video encourages women’s confidence with sport

I’m absolutely loving this video from British fitness organization Sport England, which was created to encourage more women to do more physical activity. The ‘#ThisGirlCan’ campaign, which has seen over 3.5 million video impressions in just a few days, is one with a difference. Rather than using the gorgeous, svelte glamazons we have come to associate sports videos with, they’ve used subjects that the average woman can identify with – women that jiggle when they work out, lose their breath and sweat like pigs.

#thisgirlcan Screen Shot 2015-01-22 at 10.55.58 AM

The organization found that 2 million fewer women between the ages of 14 and 40 play sports or exercise than men. The reason for this – a “fear of judgment – on appearance, ability or how they choose to spend time on themselves.”

Have to be honest, I can identify – nothing deflates my self confidence quite so much as hefting myself onto a treadmill at the gym next to a girl whose thighs are the girth of my calves, or feeling like I’m holding the whole group back on a hike.

Which is why, the message in this video is such a powerful one – we’re all in the same boat. Exercise is for you, because your body is a wonderful thing that needs to be looked after, and it doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks.

#thisgirlcan screenshot

Check out the video and let me know what you think. Hopefully you’ll feel a little more inspired to do something healthy for your body – I know I do!


Haters gonna hate

Curvy is used here as a euphemism for fat.”

Got your attention? It got mine too.
Long before I posted my first post on Mind the Curves (Mind the Fat doesn’t have quite the same ring to it), I grappled with the thought of what I’d do if I suffered the wrath of the more critical Internet populous.

Until now, for the most part, I’ve received nothing but positive feedback, ranging from chummy ‘You go girl!’s to heartfelt messages about how I am an inspiration, which have almost brought me to tears.

And then today I spotted a string of comments on a post of mine that ran on Women24.

The comments ranged from concern for my health, to calling me lazy and fat.

And, just like that, with one little drop of acid, the entire glass is bitter.

I understand that by writing this blog and putting myself out there I am, in a sense, inviting this criticism. That doesn’t mean that I’m any better prepared or less affected when someone criticizes me. I’m such a fragile little hatchling on this body positivity journey myself.

But, it occurs to me, maybe in this situation lies a golden opportunity to confront those who are so ready to criticise another’s body and perpetuate the trend of body shaming.

I believe that there’s a lesson that we can all learn together here.

Confrontation, of any sort, is not my strong point. So I’d like your help to put together a list of how to respond when someone criticizes your body. Please drop me a line on the blog, via email or on social media to tell me, in your words, why is the body positivity movement important to you? How would you respond to someone who criticises your body?

Hopefully we can help prepare each other for this sort of criticism, and maybe open the eyes of a few people along the way.

Red lipstick kisses to you all,
The Girl in the Pearls

A blog is born

If this blog has been in incubation for several years, I’ve been in labour with it for several months now.

It’s been fully-grown and ready to meet the world for quite some time, but truth is I’ve been too scared to publish.

Putting yourself out there is scary, even for something you believe about so deeply. And I do, care deeply about the core subject of this blog, body positivity.

I hit puberty when I was 9. By age 12 I had bigger boobs than my mom had ever had. Finding off-the-rail clothes has always been difficult, and more difficult still was hearing my body shape described as ‘difficult’.

As a result, I imposed on myself a lifetime of dark colours and small variations in style, always too scared to wear anything different in case I drew too much attention to myself. No heels because they make me feel like a hippo balancing on toothpicks. Nothing trendy, because then I’d look like I was making an effort, and that would just be embarrassing. I’ve dieted and worked out, and been heavier and lighter, but how I’ve felt about myself has never really changed.

And it never will, unless I change the way I think.

I look around, and see women in all different shapes and sizes, and think how beautiful they are. Why can’t I be so kind to myself?

So, here I begin. This is what I got, and I’m going to learn how to rock it. No more hiding in the same A-line black dress. I want to learn to feel good in my body, no matter what size it is.

And hopefully, as I do, I’ll find some people on the same journey.
Please share your thoughts and stories with me if you’re in the same boat.

Sincerely yours,
The Girl in The Pearls

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