5 reasons I’m excited for Dusty Rebels and the Bombshells – and a ticket giveaway!

For me, 2015 has been The Year of the Pinup.

From my very first pinup shoot with Grinkie Girls, to being a vintage witch for Halloween and even my Rockabilly birthday bash, this year has been a journey of falling in love with a whole new subculture that deeply resonates within me.

So when I heard about the Dusty Rebels and the Bombshells Rockabilly Lifestyle Festival some months ago, I was quick to jump on board.

Now in its third year, the Dusty Rebels entertainment lineup is looking more fabulous than ever before, I’m so excited to attend this weekend. Take a look at what I’m most looking forward to below, then enter to win your own set of double tickets!

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1. The Miss Bombshell Betty Pinup Pageant

Dusty Rebels will host South Africa’s first ever pinup pageant this year. They’ve been really open about including all different shapes, sizes and colours, and I’m looking forward to seeing gorgeous gals from across the country getting up on stage and having a bit of fun.

Source: www.facebook.com/missbombshellbetty
Source: www.facebook.com/missbombshellbetty

2. All the pretty dresses

I can’t help myself, ok? Really looking forward to seeing all the pretty things on sale – from frocks and fancies from Retrospective, to accessories from Black Betty Designs and more.

3. Rocking tunes

I’m a big fan of Rockabilly music, and really looking forward to getting to see live bands I haven’t yet had the chance to. Really looking forward to catching Martin Rocka and the Sick Shop, but also my all-time faves Mr Cat & the Jackal plus Them Tornados and the Damned Crows. Woohoo!

Source: www.facebook.com/missbombshellbetty
Source: www.facebook.com/missbombshellbetty

4. Badass Roller Derby Girls

I WISH I had the time to commit to roller derby – man, it looks like so much fun! Really looking forward to seeing these crazy ladies show off their mad skills on the main stage.

Source: www.dustyrebelsandthebombshells.co.za
Source: www.dustyrebelsandthebombshells.co.za

5. Fun fair

Guys! There’s going to be a fun fair! I’m not so down for the spinny tea-cup thingies, but really hope they have those swings that make you feel like you’re flying. Whooooooo!

There’s so much more on offer too – I know the boys are going to be glued to the hot rods and dirt track all day, and I’m also looking forward to munching down at some of the amazing food trucks that will be there.

Source: www.dustyrebelsandthebombshells.co.za
Source: www.dustyrebelsandthebombshells.co.za

About Dusty Rebels and the Bombshells

Date: 14 November 2015
Venue: West Coast Ostrich Ranch, N7 (25km from Cape Town)
Time: 12:00pm – 12:00am
Tickets available here.

Or, if you’re feeling lucky, enter now to win a set of double tickets for the event. Winner announced midday Friday!
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If you’re going, please come and find me and say ‘hi’. Otherwise, tune in on Twitter – I’ll be live tweeting from the festival. Hope to catch you there!

A spooktacular Halloween pinup shoot

Those who know me, know one thing for certain – I’m utterly mad for Halloween! Creepies, ghoulies, hobgoblins and bats – these are a few of my favourite things. Everyday is Halloween in my home, from my zombie and monster decor – and my absolute speciality is cooking creepy-looking food! (Brain jello anyone?)

So, when I got asked to partake in a South African pinup calendar, I jumped at the chance to be Miss October because it meant one thing – Halloween pinup shoot!

After my incredible experience doing my boudoir photo shoot with Miss Hepburn Photography and Sam Ellenberger MUA, I was super keen to collaborate with them again – and this seemed like the perfect project to reunite the dream team!

We shot this a few months ago and have been sitting on it excitedly ever since. With this week being Halloween, we just can’t resist sharing some of our favourite images with you.

We wanted to make an homage to the vintage Halloween pinups of old, with their fun shadows and kitschy studio shoots. Images like these were some of our inspiration:

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Personally, I think we nailed it. (So much for modesty, eh?).

Miss Hepburn is an artiste – I mean, she got that lighting perfect. And Sam got me absolutely looking the part. I couldn’t be more pleased.

Without further ado: the pics!

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Always fantasized about a totally obscure photoshoot? Give Miss Hepburn a call – she’ll make your dreams come true 🙂


Have a spooktacular Halloween this week!

My Rockabilly Birthday Bash

A couple weeks ago I celebrated my 30th birthday, and in true Meg fashion threw a big themed party. While I’m the furtherest thing from a ‘party-party’ girl (you’d be hard-pressed to find me up past midnight and I drink less alcohol than a mormon), I do have a soft spot for themed bashes.

Previous jaunts include Daydreams and Nightmares, Addams Family, Halloween and a Chap Olympiad, and after each one, I’ve said ‘never again!’. Not because they weren’t a complete blast, but gosh they’re a lot of work. This one was no different.

The goals for my parties are usually:

  • dressing up (like I need an excuse)
  • to get all my favourite people in the same place and encourage them to mingle and meet eachother
  • amazing food
  • a gimmick or event that doesn’t put people on the spot, but makes it more fun than just sitting around drinking

After toying with a few alternative ideas, I (along with my party-planning committee of close friends who are ridiculously supportive of my OTT follies) settled on the rockabilly theme. It seemed like the most natural thing in the world after my increasing pinup immersion over the past year, and once we decided on it we couldn’t possibly contemplate doing anything else.

My first stroke of luck was that my bestie, who was killing time in Sandton after a meeting, spotted the PERFECT dress for me on sale at City Chic. She got it for me and I snaffled it away, keeping it for the special date.

Mind the Curves rockabilly


A couple victory rolls, winged liner and red lips on the night, and I totally looked the part. Oh yeah, not to forget the amazing nails Roxy from Hallo Pragtig did for me to match my perty frock.

I mean, seriously. How incredible is that detail work?

Next important step was to choose the venue. My beau and I have long-loved On A Roll Dog Kitchen in Mowbray, not just for it’s mouthwateringly scrumptious gourmet nommies, but the festive atmosphere as well. The spot could not possible be more perfect for my vision. As my guestlist continued to grow to 80 people, I ended up booking out the entire venue, and it was such a spoil to have the space all to ourselves. They were also super tolerant of all our shenanigans, and service was amazing, so all in all hosting it there was a complete dream.

Source: dogkitchen.co.za
Source: dogkitchen.co.za

Next was planning the fun and games. After lots of deliberation, the Committee and I settled on a Rockabilly-themed scavenger hunt, which included a series of tasks and dares (and a strong injection of my weird sense of humour).

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I think the question I was asked that night the most was ‘what’s a foeff?’.

It was so great to see everyone rushing around to complete their tasks, and friends that didn’t know eachother at all finding a reason to strike up convo.

Some of my favourite tasks were the Pinup names (I assigned this to one of my more ‘creative friends’ and was very satisfied to see people wandering around with name tags reading ‘Rocky Powerthrust’ and so on.)

People loved getting their stick-on tattoos (an awesome assortment of dragons and butterflies from China Town – BOOYAH!)

Hot Rod racing consisted of people using straws to blow toy cars across a table, which was also good fun.

And then, of course, there was Fifi Foxtrot (my vivacious friend Fae) teaching her dance moves. In our heads, we all totally felt like the below clip (but no doubt in reality looked nothing the like).

As mentioned, the other important element for me was the food. What more perfect for a rockabilly party than hot dogs. And On A Roll’s hotdogs are like nothing on earth (Bockwurst Sausage topped with Roast Butternut, Crispy Bacon & Sage Cream; Bratwurst Sausage topped with Camembert Cheese, Caramelised Figs, Baby Leaves and a Balsamic Glaze). It was a slam dunk.

Source: dogkitchen.co.za
Source: dogkitchen.co.za

And what would a party be without cupcakes? I put my skills from my side business Custom Cupcakes to use, and with the help of Simone from Yellow Papaya, we created these babies, amongst others.

My night was totally made when my darling friend Caryn presented me with this cake she made for me. I mean, have you ever? Her little monster claws were even painted! She had a flower in her hair! (Any quips about the striking resemblance will be met with a scalding glare).

The other finishing touch that totally made the night for me was having Miss Hepburn Photography there running a photo booth. She really captured the fun spirit of the evening, and it was even cooler that she could print the pictures out on the spot for people to take home like polaroids.


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At the end of the night I was utterly overwhelmed and completely exhausted – frantic that I hadn’t had a chance to speak to all my dear friends that came to celebrate with me, but a very happy girl nonetheless. I had a blast, and no doubt will remember my big 3-0 bash until the end of my days.

Oh yah, and after all that work, I’m never throwing a themed-party again.

… well, not until next time anyway.



Plus size style file: Shannon from the Feminist Unicorn

It’s a Wednesday, and you know what that means, don’t you? PLUS SIZE STYLE FILE DAY! WOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOO!

Today’s juicy nugget of awesomness is Shannon from the Feminist Unicorn, another pinup-inspired fashionista I was introduced to via Instagram. Deeply in love with this gal’s funky, whimsical style – frocks and novelty prints all the way! I think if my fairy godmother magically granted me a wardrobe swap with anyone in the world, Shannon’s would be pretty high on the list.


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Let’s go a little deeper, shall we?


About Shannon from Feminist Unicorn

I’m Shannon! I’m 24 and I’m the assistant manager of a Safehouse for survivors of Intimate Partner Violence. I’m also the owner of the sweetest little kitty you’ll ever meet, even though I’m a dog person to my core.


How do you define your style?

Hmm, I guess I’d define it as quirk retro-inspired that follows no fashion rules.




Who inspires your style?

Oh gosh! So many people! I’m constantly being inspired by things and concepts on Instagram and Tumblr. I’m most inspired by colors! I’m constantly like looking for new ways to combine different colors together.


What are some things you can never leave the house without?

My phones (in my line of work I’m lucky if I only have two on me), my planner, and my photo remote. You never know when you’re gonna stumble into the perfect spot.




What does the term ‘body positivity’ mean to you?

To me it means allowing all bodies to be good bodies and appreciating the varying spectrums that a body can be!


What are your ‘secrets’ for learning to love your body?

Surround yourself with other people who are positive supportive people who love their bodies.




What do you do for fun?

I’m a workaholic as someone recently told me, so I spend most of my days at work. I haven’t been able to participate in theater and improv given my job, but that has typically been my fun outlet throughout my life. I also love reading and binge watching TV shows. Trips to the river when the weather cooperates and I have a lot of fun going on photo adventures.


If you were a character from a book, TV or the movies, who would you be and why?

I have always identified with Charlie from the novel The Perks of Being a Wallflower (so much so that I’ve got a tattoo from it) I think because we think and behave really similarly, or at least we did when I was in high school.


Who has been the most important person in your journey to body positivity?

 I haven’t always been plus size and before I was plus size I had THE WORST body confidence. Right around the time I became plus size, which actually helped me find and embrace my style, I started being a camp counselor at a summer camp for middle school girls that was all about teaching them self confidence. Up until that point I had always faked my confidence, but working there being surrounded by a whole bunch of body positive women and passing that message onto the girls taught me to love myself. I have also learned so much from Tumblr, which is odd to say, but true nonetheless.




What wisdom would you pass on to someone at the beginning of their body positivity journey?

Find a body loving community in your town or on the Internet. I cannot stress how much being around positive people, instead of toxic people can completely turn your world around.


What is your favourite feature, and how did you discover it?

As a way to learn to love my thighs, I tattooed a giant magical unicorn on one. Now I think my magical thighs are the best.




Please finish the sentence: ‘I love my body because…’

Because it allows me to change the world.


Where are your favourite places to shop?

I have been aaaaall about Pinup Girl Clothing lately, but Heart of Haute, Collectif, Eshakti, and Modcloth are still favorites.




To keep up to date with Shannon’s fabulous outfits, follow her on Tumblr or Instagram.

To see past plus size style files, click here.

If you would like to be featured on my plus size Style File, please drop me an email on mindthecurvesza@gmail.com.

Plus size style file: Monique from Monrobe by Monique De Villiers

It’s my absolute pleasure to introduce you to another South African plus size style blogger, Monique De Villiers. Like so many of the people I stalk, I discovered Monique on Instagram – and have been an avid follower ever since.

To be honest, one of the things I love most about Monique is how completely different her style is than mine. I love the bright, funky colours and patterns she wears, and how chic and mature she looks (let’s face it, I look like I’m dressed up for a theme party most of the time). Not to mention my hair envy over her gorgeous locks, and her drool-worthy nailart.


Let’s find out a bit more about her, shall we?

About Monique from Monrobe by Monique De Villiers

My name is Monique De Villiers-Delport. I am a 25-year-old magazine journalist and online coordinator for a Ballito and Umhlanga community magazine. My job allows me to be super social and I am often attending beautiful gala dinners, openings and media launches where I am mingling with celebs and well known people within the community I live in. I got married a year ago to my best friend whom I met at the age of 18. Together we have two fluffy children, Minx a toy pom and Sox our chihuahua. I love photography and I am an avid crafter, particularly scrapbooking. On the weekends you are likely to find me in our craft room (yes I have a whole room dedicated to my hobby) or shopping! I love fashion and love putting together unique looks and creating my own style that compliments my shape and personality. I am a foodie, a lover of life and my faith is something I hold close to my heart.


How do you define your style?

I love taking what’s in ‘fashion’ at the moment and giving it a ‘Monrobe twist’. I love making a look my own by mixing old with new, classics with contemporary, prints with solids and showing that plus size women can pull off any look a smaller woman can! I love prints and most of my cupboard is prints! I love maxis, high waisted jeans and skirts, kimonos and ACCESSORIES are everything! I think I own more statement neckpieces than I do shoes!

Who inspires your style?

I read a lot of fashion magazines which gives me a feel for other peoples style and what is in fashion. I wouldn’t say I follow fashion as such, I like to use elements of what is in fashion to create my own style and look. I have timeless items in my cupboard that are years old that I love to match up with a brand new item. The world around me – street style, art, trends… these are things that inspire me. Although I do feel like plus size fashion is not something you are exposed to in fashion magazines or in stores so I love following people on Instagram and looking under the plus size fashion hashtags for inspiring bloggers and Instagramers who have amazing style and who rock such amazing looks!

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What are some things you can never leave the house without?

My cellphone, sunglasses and a good lipstick!

How many pairs of shoes do you own?

I am addicted to buying Holsters and own about 12 pairs which I live in most days but I do love to buy good quality heels and boots for those nights out on the town so lets say I own 30 pairs of shoes!

Which is your favourite fashion item at the moment?

At the moment I am loving high waisted jeans!

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What does the term ‘body positivity’ mean to you?

Unconditionally loving your body, being comfortable in your own skin, inspiring others through your confidence and rocking any look you throw together!

What are your ‘secrets’ for learning to love your body?

Learn how to dress your body – learning what cuts, fabrics and items look best on your body shape can do you the world of good! If you feel comfortable and feel sexy – you will look sexy and people will complement you!

Don’t be so hard on yourself – you are not as ‘big’ as you feel! People are not judging you as harshly as you think they are!
Understand your weaknesses and enhance your best features – be it your waist line or your pretty face – invest time into researching ways to enhance your waistline or how to do amazing make up.
Work out – When you are having a ‘fat day’ get out the house and head to the gym or go for a walk – trust me a good work out gets the blood flowing and you will feel amazing!
Be aware of your inner thoughts – Compliment yourself and motivate yourself daily. Watch out for bad thoughts that dampen your mood and get you thinking horribly about yourself.

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What do you still want to achieve?

I would love to be a mom one day. I’d love to be fitter. I want to inspire, inspire, inspire in everything I do. I believe that there are so many girls and woman who can be reached who are battling on their body positive journey and I hope to inspire these beauties to love themselves and to stop listening to societies ideal of beauty and rather make their own beauty!

What are you passionate about?

I am passionate about everything in my life. I am a person who wears her heart on her sleeve and I tend to put everything I have into everything I do. Particularly with my blog, I am hugely passionate about plus size fashion and inspiring ladies of all shapes and sizes. Ever since starting my blog last year I have been so inspired by the emails and messages I receive from slender ladies and plus size ladies who have been touched by a post or inspired to wear an outfit they have been too scared to wear because they lack the confidence. One thing I know for sure is insecurity comes in all shapes and sizes and I have always believed style is sizeless…


What do you do for fun?

I love taking photos. Anyone who knows me well know that I always have my little point and shoot in my handbag and that if they go to an occasion with me, I will most defiantly have photos covered! I love scrapbooking and crafting so photos and scrapping go hand in hand. I find it a relaxing hobby that keeps me busy for hours! I am on my 10th album at the moment.

If you were a character from a book, TV or the movies, who would you be and why?

I think I would be Andy Sachs in the Devil Wears Prada because I share her determination to go far and wide to reach my goals and dreams even when the world (Miranda Priestly) is hard on me and it seems impossible.

Who has been the most important person in your journey to body positivity? Can you tell me about him or her?

Jesus Christ. Once I was saved and became a Christian I learnt to love myself and see myself the way God sees me. I am an imperfect person loved by a perfect God. I was made in the image of God and I believe I was put onto this earth to reach those who are struggling and help inspire them to love themselves for who they are because at the end of the day we are all beautiful children of God.


What wisdom would you pass on to someone at the beginning of their body positivity journey?

If you think you look amazing in those jeans… you will LOOK amazing in those jeans! People feed off your energy and if you are putting out a insecure energy – chances are people will pick it up. Fake it until you make it. Learn to love yourself, wear those jeans! Your legs are not as big as you think they are! Eventually you will love yourself and realise how hot you really do look in those jeans. At the end of the day who cares what others think of you? Just because society has painted a picture of what beauty should look like doesn’t mean this is everyones ideal! If you love yourself, others will too!

What is your favourite feature, and how did you discover it?

I would say my face because I have learnt how to do my make up well to work for me. I think having a pretty face grabs peoples attention 🙂

Please finish the sentence. ‘I love my body because…’

It has scars, it has been harmed, it isn’t perfect but it has made me who I am today and has got me through this now, amazing life I have been blessed with. My body is me…


For more of Monique’s awesome style check out her blog, or follow her on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter.

To see past plus size style files, click here.

If you would like to be featured on my plus size Style File, please drop me an email on mindthecurvesza@gmail.com.

My 30th Birthday wishlist

It’s my big 3-0 this week, and up until a few days ago, all I could come up with when people asked me what I wanted for my birthday was rechargeable batteries (for my electric toothbrush!) and a converter plug for my Macbook.

Despite my mewls that all I want is my loved-ones to be together, and truly that I don’t expect anything on the gift front, my lamentations have been poo-pooed and I was told to go sit in the corner and think about what I really wanted.

As the gears started churning, it occurred to me that this would be a fun blog post to write, and although personally I think it’s a little cheeky to post a ‘wishlist’, my Facebook followers assure me that it is not and is completely accepted in the blogging world.

So, what the heck. Here is a list of ‘things’ that would make me a happy camper.
And please note (she says with a decided tone of mortification) I definitely don’t expect gifts from anyone, this is all just for a bit of fun really. (But if you’re feeling really generous a Mini Cooper would be nice).

And so, in no particular order:

What I want for my birthday

A tripod for my iPhone

You see, when you work from home, it can be a bit difficult to take your own OOTDs (Outfit of the Day’s). Which is what my Instagram is all about. I’ve heard tell of these portable tripods that you can clip your phone into, and they even have a remote! Then I wouldn’t have to keep forcing friends and loved-ones to snap my photos ’til we get the perfect shot.

Funky brooches

I’m a bit obsessed with funky, quirky brooches at the moment. It’s a pinup thing. The weirder the better – and you can never have too many!

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Fun fact, I’m a total boardie. I like fun, social games that keep a crowd entertained. Currently my collection consists mostly of zombie-related games (I’m obsessed!) but I’m really keen to add Exploding Kittens and King of Tokyo to my arsenal. Who am I kidding – any board or card game is a total hit with me!

Waist belts

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Source: www.thefashionpolice.net

Another accessory I’m pretty obsessed with at the moment – and they’re surprisingly hard to find. The kind of thing you need one in every colour of (obviously).

All the cardigans

Another thing you can never have too many of. Plus, even if I did have more than one in the same colour, I have these awesome little patches I want to sew on the front of the shoulders. So, bring on the cardigans!

Hair flowers

Source: www.missvictoryviolet.com
Source: www.missvictoryviolet.com

I can’t deny that I’m on a bit of a pinup kick here. I could definitely use some more hair accessories to perfect my look! I know that MissHapp stocks some nice ones. While we’re at it, I’m dying to get my hands on a flower crown too.

Pinup clothes from the big boys

Images from www.pinupgirlclothing.com

It’s no secret that I have a serious Instagram addiction. I can spend hours perusing all the pretty frocks and pinup finery. At the end of each session though, I’m always left a little green with envy at all the international pinup brands available in plus sizes that my Insta sisters have access to – from Pinup Girl Clothing, to City Chic, Lady Voluptuous Clothing and more. I WANT ALL THE PRETTY DRESSSES.

Bait shoes

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That’s the other thing these frikken Instagram girls have. The most amazing shoes. And they all seem to be from BAIT Footwear. #LUST

Cake stands

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Source: housetohome.media.ipcdigital.co.uk

Another thing I never seem to be able to have enough of are cake stands. I entertain a lot, and they always get put to good use – although they’re a painus in the anus to store! Predictably I’m more into the whimsical, vintage look than the slick modern ones. They just make nibbles look so darn cute!

A tea set

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Source: shop.deagostini.co.uk

Someone once told me how their boyfriend had organised for each of their friends to buy them one teacup and saucer, so that she could have a complete set. I think this is such a lovely idea to get something of real value, without anyone having to spend a fortune on you! Will definitely be bearing the idea in mind for my friends.

So yeah, any of these ‘things’ would make me a happy camper. But truth is, I’m healthy, I’m happy, and I’m surrounded by loved-ones – I couldn’t ask for more this birthday!

Plus size style file: Katie from Life Through Kat Eyes

And so my #WCW (Woman Crush Wednesday) series continues – this week with another stunner I obsessively follow on Instagram. I’m head over heels for Katie’s wearable pinup look. She has exquisite taste, and really knows how to dress to make herself look good.




Let’s find out a bit more about this hot tamale:

About Katie from Life Through Kat Eyes

Hi!  I’m Katie, a 31yo Kiwi girl living in the land of Aus. I’m a fashion-obsessed, sometimes blogger with a love of pinup style with a modern twist, and ’40s and ’50s hair!  I’m an inbetweenie, meaning I fall between plus sizing and straight sizing, which is sometimes the best of both worlds and sometimes a challenge!


How do you define your style?

I  like to describe my style as everyday pinup. I would love to wear big beautiful dresses with corsets, stockings and garters, heels and full pinup makeup with intricate hairstyles on a daily basis, but its just not always practical, I’m not a morning person and I like my extra sleep in the morning.
I tend to pop a suicide or victory roll in my fringe most days, and leave the rest out or pop it in a pony tail, then add a flower or a scarf. Makeup wise, I just do a basic face with a slick of winged eyeliner and red lips.


I think hair, makeup and accessories set the vibe of the outfit. A simple skater dress with retro hair and makeup, and pearl jewellery can look quite retro. Cherries and pearls are my favourite for jewellery.
Prints like stripes, spots, florals, cherries and anything nautical looking help create a great pin up vibe – either on dresses or on a top, paired with a pencil skirt or cropped jeans. I adore cardigans too, a key piece in creating a retro look.


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Who inspires your style?

So many beautiful women! I manage a plus size clothing store so it’s not just bloggers and celebrities, but also the women I work with and some of our beautiful customers too! I met a lot of my friends when I moved to Australia through a plus size fashion Facebook group and I always admire how stylish they look.I absolutely adore lingerie bloggers Fuller Figure, Fuller Bust and Curvy Wordy, they rock gorgeous pinup dresses like no-one else.


And of course modern pinups Dita Von Teese, Bernie Dexter and Micheline Pitt.


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What can you never leave the house without?

Lip balm, red lipstick and my cellphone! Having dry lips is the worst, so I always need a balm or a gloss, red lippy is my staple makeup item and I’m addicted to checking social media so my phone is never too far away.


What does the term body positivity mean to you?

Appreciating the skin you are in and all that your body does for you. Living in the current moment rather than waiting until you are thinner, curvier, more tanned, toned or fit (etc) to do certain things in your life or to dress a certain way.  Being confident in your skin and how your body looks. Whether you are completely happy the way you are or whether you’d like to make changes, you can be body positive and love your body at every step of the way.


What are your secrets for learning to love your body?

Follow blogs or Instagram accounts of women whose style you admire who are a similar size or shape to you. You’ll soon realise you think they look incredible in things you are too scared to wear, and you’ll find yourself questioning why you don’t wear these things yourself. That’s how I got into pinup, I admired it from afar for quite some time before I dipped my toes in the water and realised I could do it too.
Also, be kind to your body – don’t say things about yourself you wouldn’t say about your best friend.  Find an exercise activity you enjoy and do it because you want to, not because you feel you have to.  Wear something out of your comfort zone – soon enough you might find you feel comfortable after all.



What are you passionate about?

It may sound cliche, but I’m so passionate about my job, I feel like we don’t just sell clothes,  we help people. To a lot of people, it’s just retail, but I’ve had customers get emotional about being able to find beautiful dresses or pretty bras in their size and leave the store smiling ear to ear. Teenage girls leave the store elated as they can buy trendy jeans like the ones their friends are wearing. When I was a teenager, it was impossible to find anything cute to wear above a UK14 and I’m so glad there are options out there now as every woman deserves to feel beautiful and wear trendy clothing.

What do you do for fun?

As much as I’m a girly girl, who loves to blog, shop, paint my nails and muck around with hairstyles, I like getting out in nature, hiking, random road trips, boating, exploring new places! I also love good wine and good food – so cooking, eating out and wine trails!!

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What wisdom would you pass on to someone at the beginning of their body positivity journey?

Fake it until you make it! Confidence doesn’t happen overnight, you have to work at it. It’s ok to have bad days or moments of doubt! Even supermodels have insecurities.

What is your favourite feature, and how did you discover it?

My favourite feature is my body shape. After years of dressing to hide my body, i realised I’m actually quite shapely and I dress to highlight my shape and curves. I like to accentuate my hips and I wear a lot of waist belts with pencil skirts.

Please finish the sentence. ‘I love my body because…’

I love my body because it carries me around each day, it helps me work rest and play, i have working limbs, it’s in good health, what more could I ask for!?


Where are your favourite places to shop?

My fave brands are Pinup girl clothing, collectif, lindybop, hell bunny, lady vintage & sourpuss. I love glassons for basic cardis and trousers and of course City Chic!



For more of Katie’s awesome style, check out her blog at www.lifethroughkateyes.blogspot.com or follow her on Instagram.

If you would like to be featured on my plus size Style File, please drop me an email on mindthecurvesza@gmail.com.

How to host a clothes swap party

How to host a clothes swap party

I consider myself somewhat of a pioneer in the clothes swap party area. I’ve been hosting them for years and years – since my early uni days – but it’s only been in more recent times that they’ve become  a big ‘thing’. I’ve even had to go from an open-door policy to limiting numbers – too many people trying to squish into my little housie! In case you’re not familiar with the idea, let me tell you a little more about it.

What is a clothes swap party?

Clothes swaps – or as I now call them, junk swaps (so much more than just clothes), are get togethers where everybody brings their old ‘stuff’ – clothes shoes, handbags, jewels, makeup, scarfs, books, kitchen utensils, you-name-it – and we play a sort of game going through it all and searching for treasures.

What I like about clothes swaps

There are several reasons I this clothes swap parties are such an utterly amazing thing.

1. First off, it’s a regular prompt to go through your cupboards and get rid of your old crap. I keep a bag at the back of my closet, and every time I try something on and it doesn’t fit, or I don’t feel good in it, I chuck it in the bag. Seeing someone completely light up and look fabulous in something you haven’t worn in 5 years makes it a whole lot easier to get rid of the clutter weighing you down.

2. You come home feeling like you’ve shopped up an epic storm, and you haven’t spent a cent. It’s that same sort of feeling when you find a thrift-shop score – like it’s one-of-a-kind and it was meant just for you. And you wouldn’t believe the interesting things that come out of the woodwork!

3. All the leftovers (and you wouldn’t believe how much there is!) go to charity. I’m in touch with a few different charities and keep things for specific places that I know might need, but any charity shop would be thrilled with the leftovers from one of these parties. If it’s a ton, places like St Luke’s Hospice even collect!

How to organise your clothes swap party

1. Start by figuring out how many people you can fit in your living area. I have a pretty small space, but manage to squish quite a few people in. I find 12 – 16 people a nice number. Get friends to invite their friends so you can have a nice mix of people.

Heaps of friends and piles of clothes.
Heaps of friends and piles of clothes.


2. Set a date. I used to host these on weekday evenings, but to be honest they can go on for ages and it would get quite late, and a lot of my friends these days have kiddiwinkles etc. Most recently I’ve been hosting the parties on a quiet weekend morning or afternoon. We do a clothes swap four times a year, or every three months, with the changing of the season.

3. Ask everyone to bring a bite to nibble on. Snacks are always a big part of the festivities, and you’ll need your sustenance!

Delicious nibbles to keep your strength up.

4. Let the games begin! Over the years we’ve developed our own unique ‘proceedings’ for the event, which works well for us. I’ve been to other events where there are equitable bartering systems (one for one) or your donations are given a value and you’re allowed to take something of an equal value, but those systems aren’t for us. Neither is making a whopper of a pile, and digging in. Instead, I’ve turned it into a game.

  • Everybody is randomly given a playing card. This is their trump card. They hold on to this for the right moment.
  • I methodically go through the pile of stuff, holding things up for everybody to see, and reading out size and label if I can find it. If only one person is interested, the item is theirs. If more than one person is interested, my trusty assistant will flip cards from a deck, and whoever gets the highest card wins the item.
  • If a player didn’t win the item on the card flop and still really, really wants it, and their trump card is of a higher value than the winner’s card, they can trump for the item. They can play their trump card only once per event, and they don’t get another one once it’s spent.
  • Anything unwanted get tossed into a big pile in the middle of the room. Once in the middle pile, all items are open game for anybody who wants them.
  • Once everyone’s got their piles of ‘winnings’, we take regular breaks for everybody to stop and try things on. I try to have tons of mirrors out around my house! The rule is you have to try it on before you leave. If it doesn’t fit you and someone else really wanted it, it goes to the next in line to try. You’re allowed to take things for friends and family, but only if no one else present wants it. It might sounds a little involved if it’s the first time you’re hearing it all, but we’ve been doing this for years and find it to be really fair and fun!

5. The last – and most important – rule is: invite me! I frikken love these things, and if you live near me, I’d love to attend and help you host 🙂

Some of my recent scores from a clothes swap party
Some of my recent scores from a clothes swap party

While I’ve scored soooooo many fabulous outfits, jangles, doomahickies and bits and bobs from clothes swaps, I also really love the utterly bizarre stuff that comes up – and finds another loving home! Most recently, there was a fruit bowl with a tiger on its back as the base. Previously I scored an entire zoo – that could fit in a matchbox.
The treasures are limitless.

So go on, host one, and let me know how it goes!

Dear Fat People – a response to Nicole Arbour’s fatshaming rant

Over the past couple days social media has been abuzz over a video by someone called Nicole Arbour, who is apparently a comedienne. I hadn’t heard of her before this, but that’s not surprising – I’m not so down with the ‘hip’ and the ‘cool’.

In her video Nicole addresses fat people, saying that fat shaming is something that fat people made up. She goes on to say that it’s actually a brilliant idea – “Fat shaming. Yes. That’s fucking brilliant. Shame people who have bad habits until they stop.”

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Her can watch her full video here:

It’s taken me a little while to digest this video.

On first pass – and I don’t know what this says about my personality type – but I took out all the positives from it.

Yes, we only have one body. Yes, we should look after it. Yes, being clinically obese is bad for our health, and we should be proactive about it.

But then some of the other things she had to say started sinking in.

In her blog on the subject, Laura Shortridge shares a response video by vlogger Boogie2988. I feel his response is both incredibly poignant, and really quite moving.
This is it here:

As he points out, it’s not like overweight people are oblivious to the fact that they’re overweight. Nicole’s video is not going to come as some great surprise – it’s not like we’ve all been walking around with spinach in our teeth the whole day and she’s the one who’s plucked up the courage to tell us and we’ll be all grateful to her for saving us.

No, as ‘well-meaning’ as Nicole’s message purports to be (which I don’t really believe it is – as Laura points out in her blog, Nicole is a textbook troll looking to get a rise) using shame to elicit a response from someone – no matter how good that response might actually be for them – is not the right way of going about it.

How can feelings of shame, and loathing, and disgust possibly be expected to bring about good things? When I feel bad about myself the last thing I want to do is take positive action. I want to curl up in a ball and sleep the world away.

Body shaming leads to depression. It leads to eating disorders, and other forms of self harm. I say this like it’s a fact, and maybe it’s not a scientific one, but it’s one that’s true to my life.
I am a firm believer that to make positive changes to your body, you need to be engaging with your body from a place of love. This might sound quite abstract and airy fairy, and don’t get me wrong, that’s not my deal. It’s quite simple really – taking action because you hate your body = bad for you, taking action because you love your body = good for you.

Exercising and dieting as if you’re trying to punish your body is going to do more harm than good. It’s often extreme and unsustainable, and very often not physically healthy, never mind the emotional impact it’s having. You’re not less of a beautiful, wonderful, fascinating creature for being overweight. If you do want to lose weight – and yes, I strongly believe we should all aspire to be healthy as well as happy – exercise and eat healthily because you love your body, and you want to look after it. It makes it so much easier to make healthy choices when you’re in a happy, positive headspace, than when those choices seem like a punishment.

I definitely don’t think I have all the answers, but I hope this is some positive food for thought.

Remember to be kind to yourself – other people won’t always be.

Let me know what you think about what I’ve said – it’s as scary putting my thoughts out there as it is putting pics up!




The blogging blues

My August hiatus is over, and I’m back with a bang.

Well, not really. This thing is happening where the longer I don’t write, the more pressure I feel to do something incredible for my ‘comeback’, and then I just put it off again. First there’s nothing that’s good enough to write about, then I have too many ideas and I can’t choose. I wake up early to blog to start my day – craffle the morning away and then decide it’s too late to post anything. (Nobody reads things after 2, Meg. Everyone knows that, stupid. You’ll have to do it tomorrow.)

So, I’m calling collywobbles on myself, and just sitting here, in the sun, on my couch with a sleeping kitty next to me, and easing myself into it.

I see awesome things and think thoughts that I want to blog about all the time (in my head I’m probably the most prolific blogger there ever was), but when it comes to actually writing them up and pressing ‘publish’, I get cold feet. I think it’s something to do with coming from a publishing background – everything must be flawlessly perfect. I want my photos to be magazine quality, my writing to be the funniest, wittiest, most insightful read around, and I feel like if it’s not going to measure up to all of those things then I’m not even going to try. You’re not a failure if you never tried in the first place, right?

When people compliment me on my blog, or tell me how much they like a particular piece, I actually feel this weird guilty sort-of feeling, if you can believe it, because I don’t feel like I’m putting the best content I can out there. I fret about coming across as vacuous, or vain, when really I’m trying to grapple my way around a subject I feel really deeply about. I worry that I don’t have original enough opinions to warrant expressing them – they’re just a regurgitation of something I’ve heard somewhere else.

I guess what it comes down to is I’m putting too much pressure on myself to have the perfect blog, as as a result actually not blogging at all.

So, I’m gonna call bullshit on myself. Fuck off, blogging insecurities. This blog is meant to be something that builds me up, not breaks me down.

In light of this acknowledgement, here’s my disclaimer and a vow:

My news might not always be the newest news out there.
My pictures might not look like a Vogue spread.
My opinions might be a little stale and trite.
I might be the only one who finds me funny.

But I will, blog, damnit.

I will blog when I have a thought to share, or something to inspire. I will blog when I have a gripe or a groan. (Ok, maybe not so many of that one). I will blog when I find something to lol at. My blog might look like a mish-mash of looks and feels, but I’ll put it all out there, and maybe, one word of it all will strike a chord with someone. And then I will be glad that I did.

This isn’t the post I set out to write.
But hopefully it’s the first post of many to come.
Here blooms with spring a new blog.


P.S. A very special thanks to Urban Mnguni who took the time to tell me she was missing my posts. You gave me just the kick in the butt I needed to get up and going. Thank you. <3

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